Dating an emotionally closed off men
My advice is don't freak out or give up just because he's not ready. There are ways to do it right and keep your heart safe.
This relationship will heal you from your own unreadiness and/or emotional unavailability that you aren't even aware of.
a casual relationship in which she invests more than he does, yet she feels she benefits less than he does), mainly because he has all the sex he wants and she gets very little in return in terms of security and commitment.
And to a woman, security is everything; while to a man, his freedom, independence and autonomy come first.
A high-value woman feels secure and confident about her desirability simply because she has faith in herself, if nothing else. When he pulls away, you pull back, too, even further sometimes.3. The more you give or do things for him, the more you're invested in him and the relationship.
This is what you can do to avoid a relationship of convenience that will waste years of your life:1. When a woman rows the boat, she's creating a fertile ground for a relationship to flourish, because many guys will gladly enjoy the ride when they don't have to extend any effort.2. Give him a chance to reciprocate and step up his game by leaning back.
Here's what to look out for, and how to rise above it. Will you feel used or feel like a temporary filler until something better comes along, and then will he dump you?
So many women come out of the woodwork and share with me their heartbreaking stories of dealing with guys who can't or won't commit or move the relationship to the next level. First of all, how do you know if he's really emotionally unavailable or if he's just a little guarded because he's not ready to plunge in both feet? Second, if he's not ready, will he be ready one day? Third, if he's truly emotionally unavailable, is there a cure to it and should you just accept it or move on to a greener pasture?
When you're ready, the right man will find and claim you. Generally speaking, when a man is into a woman, it doesn't take much for her to feel that.
The potential of drama and hurt feelings far surpass the benefits of having regular, "easy" sex.
And it's even more so if the woman constantly puts them on alert of the status of the relationship.
A guy can be emotionally unavailable for many different reasons.
Maybe his parents had a nasty divorce when he was a kid, maybe he just went through a nasty divorce himself, maybe he’s focused solely on work right now, maybe he has deeply rooted emotional issues that never got dealt with, maybe he’s been hurt one too many times before.